When reading this at first you probably thought this applied to relationships, but if you're like me, you tried to find a deeper meaning. This quote could be easily applied to life. But let's start with relationships. Why are we knowingly competing for spots? I could understand if you're "talking" to someone and don't know that the other person is also talking to others, but I'm talking about when it's clear and in front of your face. Why do you want to be a side chick/ side dude? Why are "he know where home at" girls a thing? They sound so stupid. Why are people ok with being second best? Everyone knows that 2nd place is the first loser. You should be a priority. You shouldn't come second to nobody and damn sure shouldn't be competing. There are so many people in the world. Don't settle for being an option. But since you're competing, what's the prize? What are you winning? Someone who was indecisive, not monogamous, and will probably cheat on you anyway? Remember, you lose them how you get them. This isn't to discourage anyone. I may not know your situation, but think about it. Imagine someone loving you and putting just as much effort as you into you and ONLY YOU! Sounds nice right? I promise you God wouldn't do you like that. Why would he make you compete for your partner, when everyone was created with one? Why would he allow you to feel second best when you're a child of a king thus always making you number one? Sometimes you really have to think if having somebody is really worth your integrity.
As far as life goes, realistically thinking, life is a competition, however if you have the mindset of the quote above it shouldn't matter. I'm a firm believer in claiming whatever it is that I want. With faith and prayer the outcomes are unimaginable. When I do anything in life I believe that I'm the best. Whether I come up short or not, I also believe everything happens for a reason. Nobody can steal what God has for me. Therefore there's no losing, you either win or learn a lesson.
On a more personal level:
I don't compete for spots. When I feel like I'm not number one I fall back. My fall back game REAL strong lol and I'm not bragging. I've literally been Number one all my life. I'm the oldest of 5. I'm the oldest grandchild and great grandchild. I don't take well to being second. I'm not used to it. When it comes to guys, in my mind I'm the shit. And when they don't see it, it hurts my feelings so I fall back and transform my hurt and negative energy into something great. Of course they see me doing good and they try to come back. (Happens every time, THEY ALWAYS COME BACK) and its crazy because they wanted me to compete with other girls, their boys, their video games, and etc. and I put my foot down and said no. And in the end when they came back the ball was now in my court. I had the power to make the choice. It's so funny how the tables turn. In life, when I go to interviews I act as if I already got the job. If I don't know how to do anything else I know how to sell myself. Coming from someone who used to have insecurity issues, and used to "compete," that's a huge accomplishment for me. I take pride in my self confidence and independence.
Moral of the story is don't lose yourself trying to please someone who has made you an option instead of a priority. If you have to compete for that person then they probably aren't for you. In life you're going to have to work hard for certain things, but claim it in advance and have faith and it'll all work out.
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