Omg. You guys...lol I saw this on Facebook and literally laughed out loud. I couldn't tell you how many friends I've lost by telling them things they didn't want to hear. I would get so mad because they wouldn't listen to me. I became that friend who got tired of repeating myself so in the end I would just say "do what makes you happy." Knowing damn well it wasn't going to end well and that I was going to be the one having to comfort them during their heart break and problems. I am very over protective of my friends. If a guy screws them over, they're going to hear from me. If a girl bumps them in a party, best believe they're getting bumped back, but at some point you can't keep saving your friends. You gotta sit back and look at the situation. Did your friend provoke that person? Could this situation have all been avoided? Did you tell them not to do xyz and they did it anyway? If the answer to all these questions are yes, you have to let the situation be. Obviously they like drama and or expect you to keep saving them. If they don't listen to you, why waste your breath or time? Maybe they're just going to have to learn the hard way in order for them to get it. But then again maybe it's your approach. Think about it. If someone says "hey maybe you can do better, let's try this" versus "girl you stupid and he not even cute, please tell me you're not that dumb, he playing you." I probably wouldn't respond either. I've been told my approach isn't the best. I think I'm being honest, but it can come off insensitive. I've found myself holding my tongue on a lot of things, and I now realize that I can't help people with my approach because everyone won't be as receptive. I feel like with the right approach you can prevent built up frustration. Friendships shouldn't be exhausting. You should be happy for your friend and vice versa. And if you have to distance yourself then do so. At the end of the day you can say you tried your best to help and if they don't listen then it's not your problem. Or merely talk it out with that person. Tell them "hey I really don't want to hear about so and so, especially if you're going to keep going back" and if they're your friend they'll understand and respect your honesty. And if you're that friend that keeps going back to that no good person, stop dragging other people in your drama. Nobody should have to experience the results of your bad decisions. Be considerate of your friends and their feelings and understand that they actually care for you. But one day they're going to get fed up and you may lose a good friend. Is drama worth losing your friendship? The answer is no. A real friend isn't going to always tell you what you wanna hear, so get out your feelings and wake up.
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