2/21 Thoughts...

The constant battle for companionship can be rough. If you're like me, you're probably confused, guarded, and paranoid when it comes to people showing interest. So I ask you men,

What do you want from us? We are confused. Help me out. You claim you want a classy, independent, smart, beautiful lady but praise the Kim Ks and strippers. Post all these celebs as your women crush Wednesday with your unrealistic expectations and then call us hoes when we reject you. What do y'all want? It's getting harder and harder for women. Good women. We want to keep our morals and our heads and standards held high, but then get called stuck up. Men claim women don't know what they want, but look who's talking. Me personally I know what I want. And I won't settle so that I don't have to be alone. I rather be alone then wasting my time and being unhappy. And this isn't a men bashing message. I want you all to understand why that girl rejected you, or why this girl is bitter. You have to go through somethings to grow. Sometimes we gotta get hurt a couple of times before we realize our worth and move on.  Sometimes more often  than others. That girl that's bitter is still hurting. She probably gave her heart to someone who played with it. That girl who rejected you probably went through the same thing but later on realized her worth and stopped falling for the lies and games. Those are the women worth being with. It's not being difficult. Y'all over use that word when y'all don't get your way. Here's a tip fellas: YOUR APPROACH IS EVERYTHING. I promise you if you chill out with the "aye ma"s and "say lil mama"s and come correct you'd get a better response. But maybe everyone isn't looking for something serious, and that's when the women come in. As long as we're making it easy for these men and allowing the mistreatment it will continue to happen. You have to know your worth. I know everyone says that but it's so true. We all fall short. I have fallen short. I have chased guys that God have shown me over and over are no good for me. Put yourself in guys shoes. If someone was giving you everything and you didn't have to work for it, would you just let it be? No. I'd probably take it too. Look at their character, how they treat others, are they in school, do they have a job. It's 2016, and we should know better than to still be falling for potential over actions. Anyone that hurts you, uses you, wastes your time is not God sent. When you learn to love yourself you won't even allow that. If you're tired of getting hurt stop falling for the same stuff. Get so selfish with yourself that you don't wanna share with anyone else. Men are hunters. You don't have to chase what God has for you. So now what? Women? Men? Are yall going to keep falling for the same lies and excuses? Are you going to look to social media for clarification based on corny flipagrams of couples that "seem" happy? Social media is the biggest lie. I personally know females that don't mind being the side chick. Just because he posting you don't mean you're the only one he's entertaining and vice versa. I say all of this not to be discouraging or make you question your position but to merely tell yall to wake up. No one should have to put up with something they don't want to. It's ok to be alone. It's ok to work on bettering yourself so that you can be ready to help build with someone else. It's ok to work on your relationship with God. Prayer is key! Be specific in your prayers. God will give you what you need. Stop settling in 2016.