My keys to success

So not too long ago someone asked me where my confidence came from. I never thought my confidence to be on 10 but I simply just stopped caring to the point where I'd let the opinions of others dictate how I lived my life. So when people would reject me, call me names, stop being my friend, or whatever I used that negative energy or anger I felt and turned it into something positive. Being the competitive spirit I am my goal was to prove people wrong. The song "Survivor" by destinys child is my theme song. Lol for example, this blog. This blog was created so that I could help other people learn from my mistakes. Like I stated in previous blogs, depression is something I struggle with, however that won't stop me from being successful in everything I do. I've done fashion shows, pageants, hosted events, radio, television, and I'm far from finished. Here are some tips on turning negatives into positives that have helped me in my journey to success.

1.BEING TOLD NO.

I am very spoiled. Being told no is equivalent to dropping your ice cream in the sand to me. When people tell me no I always look for alternatives to make the situation a yes. For example, recently I had to plan a fashion show, and I was in a pageant within a week of each other. Both events took months of preparation and long nights. It's ok to ask for help. With the help of friends, I made it work, and both were a success. My family and friends told me I was doing too much and had too much on my plate, but when I'm determined to do something it's going to happen. When I hear "no" I feel challenged. I like challenges. Any chance I get to prove myself is a challenge accepted.

2. REJECTION

My biggest fear in life is rejection. The compliments, DMs, 100+likes on Instagram does nothing for me. Those people aren't asking me out on dates. Half of them walk right past me everyday. There's been guys I've hung out with, Went on dates with, talked to everyday, and they still chose the hoe down the street. Shit hurts. Lol it's sad because then you start questioning your self worth. "Why wasn't I good enough?" "What does she have that I don't?" Were questions I often said to myself. So what did I do? First, I changed my hair. I love changing my hair. Ladies know, when you look good you feel good. But physical appearance can only go so far, so next I put all of that energy into my work. I got another job. So not only was I cute, but I had money. Nobody likes broke bitches. So then I was like, what else can I do? I got more involved on campus. I started to make connections. My work wasn't going unnoticed. The right people saw it, And of course they always come back, but then I realized that he wasn't the guy for me anyways.  And through that realization I gained friends, connections, confidence, and money lol

3. HATERS

I have family members that don't like me. It's sad really. Beware of "frenemies" too. You know the people you share your ideas with and they always say it's stupid. Try to stay away from those people because that's your vision. Everybody isn't meant to see that. The thing about haters is, you never meet one doing better than you. They gone need you one day, but it'll be easier to tell them no:)

4. FAMILY

I have 2 little sisters and 2 little brothers. If I don't make something out of myself then who will they have to look up to? I'm in school so that I can have a career to help support my family. That should be enough motivation alone.

5. TRAGEDY

My senior year of high school my best friend died. My paternal grandpa died a month later. My senior year of college my maternal grandpa died. When I get my degree it will be for them. It hurts they can't be here physically but I know they're here in spirit and watching over me. They wouldn't want me to quit. 

My life isn't perfect. We all deal with tragedy different. This is how I deal with mine. I know that God wouldn't put more on me than I can bare. It's crazy because if you know me, I'm hardly ever serious. I'm that person that laughs when I'm mad or scared, because my grandpa used to tell me that being mad was a waste of emotion. He was right. Why be mad about something you can't change? And if you can change it, then do so and stop being mad. It could all be so simple. I hope this helps whoever reads this:)