Sunday, December 21, 2014
The Cycle
I saw this tweet that said "Flirt. Text heavily. Fall off. Repeat." I think you all will agree that everyone has been through this, and most likely still going through it. You wonder why you keep falling for the same thing over and over again. You're forever in your feelings, people tell you how great you are, but the people you want to see it, don't. It really sucks, but look at the common denominator in all your failed relationships. YOU! You keep picking the same guys/girls, falling for the same game, ending up with the same results. You know what else sucks? This generation. The generation of games, tattoos, smoking, thots, and twerking. They say you gotta play the game to not get played, but what if you don't want to? What if your intentions are good? I think as people we have to stop acting on feelings. I'm not saying you have to be heartless but open your eyes. If you have a type, and you keep going after that type and fail everytime, then maybe you should change your type or stop crying about the results. But wait, Plot twist! Going after something different won't always guarantee different results. The best advice I've ever gotten was "don't tell your present about your past, because then they'll know what they can get away with." I hate to say it but there are a lot of pretenders out there. You have to be aware. I hate seeing good people get hurt when the signs are clearly there. Being more aware doesn't mean you won't attract bad people, but it's better to catch the bs early and leave before feelings evolve. Speaking of attraction, let's talk about your appearance to other people. If you're always half naked, fully tatted, smoking and twerking, then you're going to attract no good people who only want you for your body and weed. Also If you like that type, then why get mad at the outcome? Because you thought you could change them? People change for who they want. If they really wanted you they'd change themselves. Everybody knows once you stop caring, they start. So many people focus on finding relationships instead of finding themselves. I recently went on a journey to find myself. I notice when bad things start to happen it's because I'm straying away from God. I would love a realtionship, but if given one, I'd lose focus on so much. I think people forget about the work. Not only do you have to worry about school and work and yourself, but then you gotta worry about pleasing another human being. Worrying about they doing, who they with, where they at, instead of studying for that test the next day. But some people rather risk it all then be alone right? But who wants to be in an unhealthy relationship with nothing to fall back on? Get your priorities in check. God isn't going to bless you with something he knows you aren't ready for. I literally have everything I want and need. I have a job, paid internship, good grades, supporting friends and family, I'm in lots of orgs, a blog and a YouTube channel...and that is because I'm so focused on achieving my goals. God doesn't want me to lose focus. God doesn't want you to lose focus. When you trust in God and let him have his way, everything else falls in place. Love, true love, usually comes when you least expect it. Every great guy that came into my life, I wasn't looking for. The timing was just wrong, but im still friends with them till this day. I know that if things were going great and we wanted to try again, then we could. KNOW YOUR PRIORITIES. I can't stress that enough. Everybody want a bae, but don't have a job. Everybody want a cuddle buddy, but don't have a car. Like focus on being a better you, and you'll attract the right person. Be so good at everything you do, that people will question why you're single. Don't let social media make you afraid to want a relationship. I swear no one wants to commit no more. People in full blown relationships sharing with the next. It's disgusting really. And y'all allow it. I hate when people complain about what they allow out of fear of being alone. Just like you got that person, or that person was attracted to you, someone else will see just that and want you, and probably treat you better. Sometimes you have to do things you've never done to get what you want. If you never text first, then text first. Personally I'm stuck between "good things happen to those who wait", and "if you want it go get it." I think those two sayings apply to different situations. If it's a job or big career move, then go get it. If there's a guy or girl you want, and they're available, AND YOURE READY, then go get them. But if you're barely passing, unemployed, emotionally unstable, then just wait out the relationships for a while. GET YOUR ISH TOGETHER. Don't nobody want a bum, long term anyway. I hope this post doesn't sound angry. Lol I try to be nothing less than real. I too need to work on these things.
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