The Darkskin Girl

Hearing "you're pretty for a darkskinned girl" used to be the worst!! I hated it. Why can I just be pretty? And the bad thing about it was that it came from my own people. I never understood how a guy could fix his mouth to say "he doesn't like darkskinned girls" or "he only dates lightskin or white girls." MY BROTHA, YOUR MOTHER IS BLACK...and not just black, but black black. Some of y'all mamas look like Precious but y'all have the audacity to fix your mouth and degrade our women. Y'all know the slave masters started lightskin vs. Darkskin beef right? And look at us now...300+ years later. It's crazy. I won't lie, some of the jokes and stereotypeds may be funny at first but at some point we have to wake up. I'm no saint. Growing up my best friends were lightskinned or white. I was always the dark one. I was considered "the ugly" friend. I was a cheerleader, cheer captain at that! But I never felt pretty...until I got to college. It's crazy because the same guys that dissed me or dated my lighter friends tried to talk to me once they were through with them. But what got to me was the "you're pretty for a darkskinned girl." IM PRETTY PERIOD! I hate seeing girls of my complexion or darker degrading themselves for attention or bleaching their skin. My 11 year old sister told me today that she doesn't feel pretty when she's next to me....she's darker than me. It broke my heart. It's crazy how society deciphers what's pretty and what's not based on color. I used to always see that picture of Tiny and Kelly Rowland and the caption was "every lightskin girl ain't pretty, and every darkskin girl ain't ugly." This  could be true but it's still COMPARING THE TWO! In a white person's eyes WE ARE BOTH BLACK! And that's just what it is. I know my blog won't stop this controversy within my race, but the point of the blog was to let my darker complexion sistas know that we are beautiful too!! Can't NOBODY tell me I'm not cute. Lol you would never believe I had insecurity issues now. I'm so in love with me it bothers me when others don't see it, and that's how you have to be sometimes. Don't let the opinions of others change you! Opinions don't pay bills or tuition. You are beautiful the way God made you. Find your image and embrace it!